No Choice, Just have to Tolerate and Live with it

Filed Under (Home and Society) by Uncle Che on 31-05-2010

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I used to complain about outages but I guess I was wrong about the severity of the tag I placed on the situation. Now is really the time to complain and tag the outages a more serious name. The outages are so rampant that they are expected to occur at any moment and last for as long as possible. I blog like a thieve, you know, write a on aper, type it in word (while saving) as soon as power is on and quickly hit the publish button on my wordpress post page.

Even at this stage, I shouldn’t be complaining much. My mum says, “Never you complain because the situation is not yet at its worst possible state/stage”. Wise mum, huh? Semi-educated though :D . If she had even a tenth of the education I have now, I guess she would be the one teaching me how to knob a tie. Oh! Let me not pretend here. I never put on one. I feel very uncomfortable in suits. Noela always asks “How would you dress up on our wedding day? “In tennis shoes, jeans and a T-Shirt? Ha ha ha.

Oh! This reminds me of a discussion I had with Lainy a few days ago. They were just musings, you know, a little this and a little that and we got to the point of my upcoming wedding. I was talking about Noela planning to be very classy and Choosy about the wedding and Lainy told me every girl is. They always want the best. Lainy asked me if she was invited and I replied a firm “NO”. When she put on a sad emoticon, I explained to her that no wedding planner gets invited to a wedding. Whop invites the one running the show? Ha ha ha.

When she asked me what my idea of a perfect wedding would be, I really didn’t know what to say. I really have never been to any wedding except Simon’s Wedding with Lidwina. I told her division of labor and specialization must take it’s course and in this case, I am the provision minister of the financial department. Nothing else :D

After the word “financial” I paused and many things came to my head in a rush. I found myself telling Lainy a part of my history never narrated to her before…

Oh! It’s Wednesday Already…

Filed Under (Uncle Che) by Uncle Che on 28-01-2009

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What’s special about this Wednesday? In case I haven’t told you yet, get it now. I will be traveling by night to Buea and will get to see my love very early in the morning when I reach Buea. But till then….

Yesterday was a very remarkable day. First of all, I went to the hospital very early in the morning for my laboratory test. I was first on the queue so everything was like a breeze. After taking my blood and skin sample, I was told to pass by at 1pm and collect the results from the doctor who carried out the consultation. I left for Edith’s place and though she left at about 10am for work, i was happy spending the day with her little boy and the nanny. I watched a movie, WAR, by Jet Li and Jason Statam and when it ended at a few minutes after 1pm, I left for Simon’s place.

We had a very great time at home listening to Music he and other members of ProFelon Recordz have produced. Then we moved to the studio, where I helped him record some CDs he wanted to share with friends and relatives before traveling. These CDs are the same content as those he distributed on his wedding day. They carry two songs related to the wedding, Bye Bye Bachelor and My Bride. He had about 160 copies more to produce and I don’t even know how many I helped him burn. When it was time for the party, I stopped the burning process and we all left.

It wasn’t much of a party, just something symbolic. We had about 2 dozen guests and lots of drinks and snacks. The most symbolic part of the small event wasn’t the food or drinks but the discussions. It was the very fisrt time that we gathered the most of our intimate friends in one small hall and talked about our similarities and differences, projects and dreams…

The greatest part of of our discussions centered around relationships and music. We exchanged ideas on how to find love, keep it and mature a relationship to the point of marriage and even beyond. We all had bags and bags of advice for Simmy and Liddy. She was the only lady at the occasion. We all congratulated her for being so patient and understanding, tolerating Simon even in times of intense poverty and little hope.

The party ended at a quarter to midnight and we bid each other goodbye. spent the night with the same friend Simon took me to last time and still got up very early in the morning and escaped. Just that this time, with Simon’s permission, I passed by to say goodbye but he wasn’t in. I met Liddy and collected some of my stuff and she promised me would meet Simon on the way if I took a direct course. So I did and I met him.

I will be going back to Buea this night so I must keep up with an fun I have missed since I came to Bamenda. I dedicated myself for some sightseeing and finally visited the main market in our village and also the secondary school I attended for 7 years. My younger brother, Neba Gilbert, accompanied me to the market since he wanted to fetch a new radio for himself. Photos will be made available later.

Now, I am patiently waiting for mum to return from work at 7pm so that I can have a little chat with her before the journey. Can you imagine that up to this moment she doesn’t know I am travelling today? I thought it would be tomorrow but my love insisted it must be today. I guess I have no choice.

Noela thought I would be a bit busy so she called a friend, Rosy, who will be travelling this same night to go to the motor park and pay two tickets for both of us. I am expected to be at the park at 9:00pm. I hope I make it.

After The Celebrations…

Filed Under (Uncle Che) by Uncle Che on 26-01-2009

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I got up very early from Simon’s place yesterday (Sunday 25th) and went back home. I didn’t bother to wake him up because I knew he was very tired from the activities that took place on great Saturday – the wedding. Secondly, I didn’t even tell mum I would be spending the night out so it was a good reason to come home early so that she sees my face before leaving for work. However, I was still late. Mum usually goes to work at 5:30am so she leaves home at 5:00am.

I made a promise to Mrs Muma Edith (Noela’s elder sister) that I would spend the whole day of Sunday at her place. She is very friendly and welcoming and I knew she would be happy having me around but I couldn’t get there very early. I decided to sleep and attended the second mass at Church (10am – noon). After church, I spent about three hours sleeping before going to Edith’s place.

It was fun spending the day with her and her husband. We watched TV, exchanged stories, and I had to play with their little cute and intelligent boy, Neba Magloire. I pent the night there and early this morning, I decided to give Simmon a call. He was surprised that I was still in Bamenda. Though we did not talk much because of poor communication network, I didn’t bother calling again because I decided I will pay him a visit. First and foremost, I had to go to the Bamenda Preventive Hospital for a laboratory test proceeding the consultation i had since December 23rd 2008. The queue was quite a length and I was too impatient to wait so I postponed the task and rescheduled it for Tuesady morning so I could go very early and be the fisrt on the queue. I boarded a taxi to Simon’s place and to the best of surprises, he was organizing a send off Party to take place the next day (Tuesday). He explained to me that Wednesday has been reserved for their honeymoon and the was getting away for the North on Thursday, so Tuesday was the only day possible for a sendoff party. We chatted and spent some time planning the sendoff. We had to carefully make a list of who to invite and what to share. It wasn’t really going to be anything formal. Just calling a few friends and letting them know he would be going back to work in a few days.

I am on my way back home, but first I will stop at Edith’s place again and spend a few hours with her. When I get back to town tomorrow (Tuesday) for Simon’s Sendoff party, I will keep you all posted.

Bye Bye…

God Puts Liddy and Simmy Together

Filed Under (Uncle Che) by Uncle Che on 25-01-2009

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His name is Ambe Simon Numfor, and is spiced up as Simmy, the name he picked up for the game when he started out with his HipHop career. He actually added Daddy to it, making it Daddy Simmy but today, he is popularly known as Survivor, his stage name. After pursuing a degree in Nursing at the University of Buea for 4 years, he worked in the private sector for about 2 years and is currently employed and posted to the Far North Region as a Registered State Nurse (RSN).

Her Name is Lidwina but has been spiced up to sound as Liddy. After signing the papers iun court yesterday, she legally bears Numfor, so I will prefer calling her Mrs. Numfor. She is posted in the Littoral region as a teacher. Trust me she is a very dedicated one.

The wedding proper began Yesterday (Saturday 24th January 2009) in the All Saints Parish (a Catholic Church) at Bayelle, Bamenda. It started at 1pm. I still can’t believe I went there up to 30mins late. I left Bafut and went to town to fetch a wedding present for him. I just too busy on Friday with the Court witnessing and the Bachelor Eve celebrations that I totally forgot about the present. What can I get for him as a present? The whole world could not have been enough, so I just had to get anything, no matter how small, but attached lots of love to it. With Noela’s help, we decided to go for a blender.

If I have to describe the Numfors wedding in one word, that word would be “Wonderful”. Because of the great organization, time and money invested in the event, all went big and timely. I trust Simon’s capabilities when it comes to executing projects, so I didn’t doubt this will be a success.

The blessing in church took place from 1pm to about 3pm, after which some snapshots where taken in front of the church building and everyone proceeded to the reception ground which was a hall within the church premises. The bride and her groom were welcomed into the reception hall with a song “true love” by 2 Face (a Nigerian Singer and rapper). After some speeches by the couple’s parents and some key organizers gifts were presented. One part of the reception that was always on and uninterrupted was the feasting itself. There was more than enough for everyone to eat and drink and all uninvited guests were welcome. No one even had to present an invitation to enter the hall.

By 9pm, everything was over at the hall but close friends and relatives had to escort the couple home. I couldn’t leave at that point, so i had to help with the transportation of the crates and bottles and some other items. We continued the wedding celebrations hi the groom’s home, I spent the night with a close friend of his and left very early this morning.

The snapshots I took from the wedding were too many and to make them easier to view, i will present them as a sideshow. I will create the sideshow this night and I hope by tomorrow, it will be up for viewing.

I Attended Simon’s Court Wedding

Filed Under (Uncle Che) by Uncle Che on 23-01-2009

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Continuing from yesterday. I did travel safely and arrived Bamenda at 7am.

The court wedding starts at 8:00am and the location is about 10 miles from my home. Although I am very tired and feeling sleepy, this is not an occasion for me to miss. I couldn’t make it at 8 am so I got there at 9. Lucky enough for me, nothing had started yet and all 12 couples together with their witnesses, parents and some relatives and friends where all there waiting for the mayor. Many people expected that the mayor’s assistance will begin the occasion if the mayor was late, but no way. We all waited for the mayor’s arrival at 10am. The occasion which was expected to end at 11am took us up to 2:15pm. From the courtroom, we proceeded to small hall where we had some prayers, food and drinks and also got to introduce ourselves to each other.

After that, I followed Simon to his place and spent a few minutes there. During that short time, we boith received calls from Noela, asking us if everything went on well.

I  left Simon’s place and went to a cybercafe to talk to Lainy as I promised but it was already late. I was very sure not to meet her and I wasn’t surprised not meeting her online. I decided to switch to plan B, writing this post and immediately I it “publish” I went to see Aunty Manka. I was very suire she would get mad at me for being i Bamenda without calling her but on the contrary, she was very happy seeing me.

After spending some time with Noela’s sister, I left for Simon’s Bach Eve…

On My Way To Bamenda

Filed Under (Uncle Che) by Uncle Che on 23-01-2009

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As I informed you on this post, Numfor Simon Ambe will be getting married on the 24th. Before the marriage proper is the “court wedding” where vows are being exchanged. I thought that one will be optional since I am too busy but Simon insisted I must be there, so I will be traveling in less than 30 minutes. One thing very marvelous is that the Court wedding and Bach eve are taking place on the 23rd, and that coincides with Simon’s birthday.

I have already booked for my trip and will be traveling at 10:00pm. I am however expected to be at the motor park 30mins before time. I really don’t know when I will get some sleep, but I hope it will be a smooth journey and the following day’s activities will go on smoothly as well. I will keep you updated.

Friend’s Wedding Coming Up Soon

Filed Under (Uncle Che) by Uncle Che on 16-01-2009

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If I tell you I am not jealous, come on…don’t believe me. I am, but that’s OK. He is my friend. Not just a friend, a very special type. The type you wish could be your brother. He is my brother, anyway. We look very alike and almost the same age and height. The difference is just that h has put on a little more weight than me and is smarter than I would ever be :D .

His name is Ambe Simon Numfor, a very well respected artist  in the BDA neighborhood. He is into HipHop and has a very large fan base. He has already released two demo albums and a long list of single hits. He sings in both English, pidgin and in our local dialect. He loves and produces music that deals directly with our immediate surroundings and its problems. Music is his life.

He has always been a very bright student at school, obtained a first degree in Medicine in the University of Buea, obtained some working experience and is now on a paid job in one of the loneliest parts of the country :D However, he is happy with it.  He is open to a whole lot more of opportunities there, especially in his music career.

Just about a week before X-mas, Simon told me;

“Men, soon ur man’s gonna jump 2 another level, he he he. You guyz gonna pay ur respect to a whole different G, a responsible spouse and soon 2 be dad”.

I couldn’t believe it, but it was true. Simon is getting married soon, 24th Jan 2008. That’s a big challenge to me, I must admit. I wish him the best in his love life and marital home.